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The Top 10 Ways To Set and Extend Boundaries 1. Educate people way in advance: "You know, I'm fairly touchy about people raising their voice at me..." 2. Ask the other person to stop: "I ask that you stop yelling at me, now." 3. Demand that the other person stop: "I demand that you stop yelling now." 4. Walk away: "I am walking away because you refuse to respect my boundaries." 5. Raise your own standards: "I don't yell at anyone for any reason." 6. Warn the other person when they are getting too close: "This is escalating into a fight and...." 7. Upgrade who you hang around with: "My family/friends easily respect my boundaries, and I, theirs." 8. Extend the boundary: "It used to be OK for you to be angry with me, but now...." 9. Not get into situations/people in which you'll predictably need to extend your boundaries. 10. Announce/Extend the boundary the MOMENT you can tell the other person is going down the wrong path with you. About the Submitter: This piece was originally submitted by Thomas J. Leonard, who can be visited on the web at http://thomasleonard.com/
"Just because I choose to set a few boundaries does not mean that I LOVE YOU LESS....it means that I'm just learning how to LOVE ME MORE!" Brenda "Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional." Pain from others' reactions to our setting boundaries, suffering if we don't set boundaries? Just a thought. "No problem lasts forever. No matter how permanently fixed in the center of our lives it may seem, whatever we experience in this ever-changing life is sure to pass. Even pain."
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